I’m thankful to live in a time and place where progressive thinking and equality are celebrated. Do you feel the same way? If you do, you might be just as eager to embrace Becoming Cliterate (2017, HarperOne) with both hands (or just one, if you catch my drift).

Dr Laurie Mintz created this resource for people everywhere with clitorises – and those who love them – to fully embrace their orgasmic potential. Because with straight, cis-gendered women receiving the least orgasms, it seems we as a culture have ways to go.

Dr Laurie Mintz is an author, psychologist, a speaker and a professor  whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live more authentic, meaningful, and joyful lives through the art and science of psychology.

Along with Becoming Cliterate, she’s also authored  A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship (Adams Media, 2009).
In this episode, we explore what Mintz calls the orgasm gap, and explore ways to bridge the hugely unfair divide.

 

In this episode we talk about:

  • What is the orgasm gap?
  • The number one reason women aren’t having enough orgasms
  • Is porn bad?
  • Why penetrative sex does not = female orgasm
  • Why sex education in the US contributes to the orgasm gap
  • Are older women more sexually fulfilled than those below 35?
  • Is foreplay ruining your sex life?
  • What is linguistic genital mutiliation?
  • Basic female anatomy – are you getting it right?
  • Different = deficit
  • G-spot ejaculation
  • Lauren White and the Anti-Tantra Mantra
  • Hugo Schwyzer and anal sex
  • Is there a purpose beyond pleasure for the female orgasm?
  • The Case of the Female Orgasm by Elizabeth Lloyd 
  • The evolution of the clitoris
  • How to express your needs during a casual hook-up
  • The Sexual Healing Journey by Wendy Maltz
  • How to recover from sexual abuse and reclaim your sexuality
  • Why you absolutely need to stop making penis-sized jokes
Dr Laurie has a fabulous blog should you seek further advice and tips.
You can also follow her on Twitter and Instagram.

 

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